In this training originally hosted over on Instagram, we're using Sex, Love and Your Personality: Nine Faces of Intimacy by Mona Coates and Judith Searle to guide us through the four parts of the Enneagram (outside of just your type) that can play a part in a happy and healthy relationship:
This has to do with how emotionally healthy each partner is within their own personality type.
Many time we tend to see ourselves higher in health than we really are, so the more self-aware and honest you can be the better you can understand where you really are within the levels and what it will take to grow into the next level.
Examples of higher development within your type includes:
A person's dominant Subtype represents the arena where the issues of their type will be most often play out i.e. saving money or in intimate relationships.
You can use subtypes without knowing your Enneagram type.
Positive Outlook types might sound like:
Compliant or Dutiful types might sound like:
Emotional Reactivity or Intensity types might sound like:
Each type has an arrow number they go to in disintegration or stress, and take on the unhealthy qualities of that type and one they go to in integration or health where they'll take on the healthiest qualities of that type.
At the end of the training, you'll also hear questions from the community that get answered including:
"How do you get your significant other to type themselves?"
"Any types that should definitely avoid each other?"
"How does the Enneagram and 5 Languages of Love overlap?"
"What if your partner isn't into working on themselves as much as you are?"
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